Before I go back to Series I and finish my discussion on Senior Management résumé, I had some thoughts this last week that might help some of you.

If you are planning a job change, feel a hint of trouble coming in your job, are having marital problems and under pressure to get a new job – here are some thoughts:

You need to approach change with determination and belief that it is possible, because it is!  All you have to do is go back in history and there are story after story of people who have made dramatic changes in their lives.

 But you have to be determined, well, sound in spirit, and willing to work as hard for yourself as you have for your company.

If you are depressed – try hard to come to terms with it and know it is quite common today in changing jobs, losing jobs, living a little in an uncomfortable financial zone.

 There isn’t any coach who can “fix” someone or their situation, if he/she is depressed.  It feels on my side as if I am pulling someone along who doesn’t want to come.  Maybe he/she is saying they want a new résumé or coaching for a new job change, but as a matter of fact they are dead weight that I am dragging along.

No coach is a doctor.   I do not believe that it takes years of life coaching  for change to happen.  That, my dear friends is just the cash cow of a coaching service.  I use 30-60-90 days as the longest period and prefer 3 to 5 sessions.  If you are willing to work that is all you need until you perhaps get further down the road and need help with the interview challenge.

 I just wanted to say all of this because this week I sent someone home after one session, because I just knew, regrettably that the depression was so deep that my coaching wouldn’t work.

It is just like you wouldn’t go to a training coach, if you had a fever.

Get well, strong and determined with true belief that you want and can have a better life because we all deserve it.  We can get off track so easy in our world today.  The money thing, you know, and then if you have settled for that there is just misery and a hum drum life that is grueling. So tell your doctor the truth, get a little help and then come to me to be bushed-up and polished to go on to a better life.   Mary Ann

Here I am back, again apologizing for not writing. I have been to Denver for 10 days.  Wonderful!  I have a month old grandson there and a 3 year old acting out, but very smart and very fun to watch.

I think when I move there I am going to donate some time to National Jewish Hospital to help teach asthmatic children.  That is a personal goal.

I also have a personal goal to write my very best for you and help each and everyone of you gain momentum in where you want to go.  I am good at this, so take advantage, please. And if you think you can’t afford me, you can at least write me and gain some answers to a question or two that might spur you on your way.

I had a client recently who is extremely competent – one of the best in his industry, but his self esteem has bottomed because of a work situation in which his superiors are poking around and diminishing him.

Has that happened to you?  If it has, you need to move out of that situation, because no one needs to be diminished in their career.  If they are or you are then it is a job to sustain you.  It is not your career. 

A career is about actualizing, being thrilled with what you do.  Doing what you love, what is easy for you, because it is part of your DNA talent.

Yes, work needs to feel easy and fulfilling, not hard.  I don’t know Bill Gates, but I bet if he had to work in a mill, it would feel hard to him.  He may do it well, but it would be a drudge. No one pokes around at him, but I bet they have tried.  But, you see, he has operated from the power of his innate talent and no one can touch that. Not Bill Gates and not you.

Life can’t wait for you to find yourself.  You must do that on your own. Then when you feel the momentum and feel light as air – skip a little bit, then you are in your zone, in your talent base.  Remember that the next guy isn’t so comfortable in your zone.

We forget this.  We think if it is easy for us, it is easy for anyone.  THIS IS NOT SO. 

So look for what you love to do and what is easy for you and start off your goal for 2010 ( that is fun to write – try it)  finding what is fun, interesting, challenging and moving away from people who do not appreciate you as you are.

Happy New Year —-Mary Ann

p.s. And write me.  Complain to me.  Ask me questions. Sometimes I feel that I am writing to an empty Internet.  It is like singing in the dark.

I’ll answer too.